Place bulgur in a heat-proof serving dish. Pour on boiling water & let stand while preparing the other ingredients. Mix together miso, water, honey & sesame oil. Set aside. Heat oil in a wok & saute eggplant for 5 minutes, stirring. Add garlic & ginger & saute for 2 minutes. Add tofu & saute for 5 minutes. Add miso mixture & stir fry for 4 minutes. Add onions & pepper flakes & cook till tender. Pour off any excess water from the bulgur. Fluff with a fork & top with eggplant. Serve immediately.