In a small bowl combine fruit bits and apple butter. In a large bowl, combine egg, milk, graham cracker crumbs, pepper, ground ham, and ground pork. Crisscross 3 foil strips atop a sheet of waxed paper to keep counter clean. In center of foil strips pat half of the meat mixture into a 7 inch circle. Spread fruit mixture on meat circle to within 1 inch of edges. Top with remaining meat mixture. Press edges of meat to seal well. Bring up foil stirps, lift and transfer to any size crockpot. Press meat away from sides of crockpot to avoid excss browning. Cover and cook on Low for 8 to 10 hours or on High for 4 to 6 hours. Loaf is done when meat thermometer inserted reads 170 degrees F.
In a small bowl combine brown sugar, apple juice, and dry mustard. Spread over meat. Cover and cook on Low or High heat for 30 minutes more.
Using foil strips, lift ham loaf from crockpot and transfer to serving plate; discard foil strips. Serve.